A message from Kyle Woody, a Jack's Founder & Executive Director
I'm excited to announce that I've gone to work for Jack's full time, continuing to lead the organization as I have since 2014 when we were founded. It's my hope this news will further inspire all of you that have joined us in our mission, we want you all to know how serious Jack's is. Our mission is no longer just something we work on during nights and weekends or when it's "convenient." It's something we're always working on.
Our recent "Extreme Sandbox" program in October is a perfect reminder of why we exist. We had the privilege of bringing a group of men together who've collectively had decades of experience caring for their loved ones with cancer. A group of men who haven't, until Jack's came along, had a community for them. Jack's understands what the powerless frustration caused by losing control to cancer does to a man. So we gave these men the controls of powerful machines and challenged them to annihilate the "Cancer Car". They didn't disappoint! What we do is simple really - our hospitality brings these men together, and together they improve.
And as we prepare for November, National Family Caregivers Awareness Month, we have more exciting news to share. Our board is growing. We're launching a series of Twitter Chats titled #Menwhocare during which we'll moderate a national conversation on the subject of men who are caregivers. And we're launching a Podcast that's on a mission to inspire the world to reconsider what men are capable of. Plus we'll have our first ever program at Prince's place!
I'm inspired by Prince and the story of his performance at the 2007 Super Bowl. Largely recognized as the best Super Bowl halftime performance in history. Who could forget Purple Rain in that huge Miami rain storm? But did you know that before the show Prince was warned about the numerous risks of performing in that storm. When asked about whether or not to proceed, Prince responded,
Can you make it rain harder? - Prince
How bold and confident the guy was to rise up and just get stormed upon, to bring what he brought to that challenge.
At Jack's we believe every man has the potential to face the challenge of cancer caregiving as boldly and confidently as Prince faced that Miami rain storm.
And while we're inspired by Prince our story isn't about people like him. It's about the lives of everyday people like you that live in your community. Everyday people that wake up every day and face something much more sinister than a storm.
All our best,
“One is the loneliest number . . .” begins a popular 1960’s song by Three Dog Night.
But 2 can be the loneliest number when your partner has cancer.
Treatments left Cindy* and her husband stranded at home and away from family and friends in order to keep germs and illness at bay.
We were such social people, and suddenly we didn’t have the same lifestyle anymore. It was incredibly isolating and I was constantly conflicted and guilty when I would get together with friends.
Cancer Changes a Partnership
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Recently Aaron emerged from our Axe Like a Bad Axe Workshop as the supreme victor. We visited with him to learn more about him and how he pulled off this incredible feat.
Home is St. Louis Park. I have lived in New Orleans, Chicago, and San Diego as well. But the Twin Cities feels like home to me. I once took second place in a tough man competition, ran a 1/2 marathon, and won an organized debate...within 16 hours of one another.
I feel like Columbus must have felt. Continuing the metaphor, I know the Earth is round (so hey, there HAS to be a way, right?)...but have no idea what I am sailing into. I have what can be deemed "convictions" as to the outcome (we are midway into radiation with good prognosis), but I suffer from what is sometimes termed "Knightian Uncertainty" - I simply do not know what I do not know about how this will all turn out.
The Axe like a Bad Ass Workshop was clearly the single most important tournament in the history of the world, and I just happened to be victorious. I won it ALL baby. But seriously, it was the pleasure of learning a ridiculous, absurd, totally irrational activity in our break-neck era of progress and technology, and I think we all loved every second of it.
I also participated in Ice Fishing, which was a blast...basically an excuse to stare at a bobber and drink beer. There was also the meat cutting workshop as well. Super educational and fun.
(Insert boilerplate proathletespeak) "Well guys, I just have to thank the other players, they were just great today, and I just was lucky I guess, aw shucks wish we all could have won". Ok, maybe not that...I was just happy that we all could have some unapologetic fun for zero reason. Winning was irrelevant (unless you lost...which you all did.). :-D
Its funny you ask...I actually trained in Svalbard with some locals. We threw axes at the flying dragons who inhabit the volcanoes. No wait, that didn't actually happen. I think most of my "skill" can be attributed to the relaxing atmosphere and having some time to just let go of reality for a little while. That and the fact that I am physically perfect and the pinnacle of athleticism.
No human in our position could have exited Bad Axe and thought "what a terrible idea and I shall never do these types of things again". Jack's itself is essential for taking the logistical reigns and facilitating the entire process of unwinding. I alluded to Columbus's journey in a previous question...its good to have shipmates who are in the same boat, facing similar prospects, dealing with similar fears. So second star to the right, gentlemen, and straight on til' morning...
Meat Travis Robertson, Our Meat and Axe Throwing Workshop Champion
Proud owner of over 5,000 Christmas songs ranging from classic to reggae to hip hop. I’m originally from St. Louis Missouri (Go Cards!) but have lived in Minnetonka for more than half of my life.
In the thick of it. My wife Katie has stage 4 breast cancer that’s metastasized around her lungs and on her brain. Because the first treatment plan was unsuccessful, Katie just started a new treatment plan three days ago. Shit is getting real, my friend. That said, we’ve got amazing doctors, friends and family – and Jack’s too—who are helping us manage this very bumpy road. We call our family Team Robertson, and we’ve had some of the highest highs and lowest lows in the past 6 months. I’m an optimistic person and so is my wife, so we’re ready to fight like hell to keep the Team intact for as long as possible!
It’s an epic chance to learn from an expert of all things Meat! Dr. Ryan Cox is a PhD at the U of MN who has a lot of knowledge to share, and he’ll be schooling us on all the different cuts of meat. So, when you go to a restaurant or go grocery shopping, you’ll be more informed about what you’re choosing. This workshop event originated from a group I started with my friends a couple of years ago called “The Gentlemen’s Workshop.” Every month, we would put on monthly events to get us guys out of the house while learning something new (e.g: ice sculpture carving, knife fighting, scotch tasting). Partnering with Justin at Jack’s, we wanted to bring a new type of programming to Jack’s in addition to the hunting and fishing events. Hopefully, our fellow Jack’s participants think this direction is a worthwhile one going forward.
To me, hospitality is about being empathetic and anticipating what someone needs, even before they know they need it. Whether it be providing money for parking, a cooler for taking home your cuts or hosting a happy hour afterwards, I believe we’ve anticipated many needs along the way. Caregivers like myself have a lot to juggle all week so hopefully events like the Meat Workshop are a nice reprieve from the whirlwind of life.
For me, planning it has been a blast! It’s fun to plan something for other caregivers and see what the response will be to an unconventional idea like a Meat Workshop. What always surprises me about Jack’s is how we think through every detail from start to finish of an experience. Hopefully we made this day one of the most effortless times of their week, given all that they’re dealing with as a caregiver.
Can you keep a secret? We’ve got some fun surprises up our sleeve. The idea is for each event to be something that makes you say: “Man, I’m glad I did that. That was epic.” While we’re still finalizing the events, we do have some starter thoughts: The Classic Car Road Trip, Exotic Cooking Class, Axe throwing, and Ice Sculpting with chainsaws. Each event will be incredible in its own way, but I’m most intrigued about the Classic Car Road Trip where we get to pick out a vintage car to drive for the day as a group.
By Travis Robertson
His next adventure is on May 6th at the world's biggest urban axe throwing club, it opened in late 2017 at a size of 8,000 square feet. Bad Axe's mission is to bring the thrill of a traditional Canadian backyard pastime to urban communities. Learn more at Bad Axe Minneapolis.
If you'd like a copy of our Axe Throwing Workshop flyer you can download it here!
Meet Heather Erickson, our Caregiver Klatch Champion
Heather Erickson plays a lot of roles, a primary cancer caregiver, a Mom, a wife, a teacher, an author, a blogger. The list goes on. And most recently she's assumed the role of our Caregiver Klatch Champion!
Just one? I did recently take 1st place in a duck decoy carving competition. It was my first duck, too. Home for me is anywhere my family is. We live in Blaine, Minnesota.
I don’t know if you ever get off of this journey once you get on. My husband was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer in 2012. We are beginning to see the end of his time with us approaching, but then I will be left to pick up the pieces and go on. We have kids that I am homeschooling right now, and one in college. So, we’ll all still be walking the road, trying to heal.
I met Kyle when you guys were first getting Jack’s going. I remember thinking how awesome it was that Jack's was doing something exclusively for men who were caregivers. I admit, I was also a little jealous, though. You guys seemed to have a pretty cool thing going on. So about a year ago, I learned through Angel Foundation that you were having a co-ed Caregiver Klatch, so I thought I’d check it out.
The first thing I noticed was there wasn’t anyone telling us what we were going to talk about. It was completely up to us what we discussed and for how long. Because of that, one Klatch can be totally different from the next, just because of who shows up.
The food was great. What was even better was being able to talk to other caregivers exclusively. In other groups I’ve taken part in, there us usually someone there that you worry you might offend if you are completely honest about how you’re doing. When it’s just caregivers, you don’t have to censor yourself. There’s a shared experience that you all have. There’s something very comfortable about that. As I drove home, I felt like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders.
From the very beginning, I completely believed in the Jack’s mission of being there for men who are cancer caregivers. The Klatch is such a phenomenal experience. I knew I would want to go every month, anyway. So why not support it by leading? It’s been a great experience. One of the things that has impressed me the most is how on top of things you guys are.
It’s not really one thing (at least not that I can talk about since we protect participant’s privacy). Every week, I am amazed at the way participants of the Klatch support one another. One participant described it as a safe place to share what’s on your mind.
Currently we have been partnering with Angel Foundation, an organization that supports families facing cancer. They also have an emergency financial assistance program. The great thing about having Angel Foundation in on some of the Klatches is the expertise they bring to the table when someone has kids and they are concerned about their well-being.
We are also partnering with Cancer Legal Care. They provide referrals to free legal assistance for people facing cancer. My husband and I used their services in the beginning of our journey to get all of our legal ducks in a row. They were wonderful! An illness like cancer can really bring upheaval to your life. Whether it’s dealing with disability or writing up a will, it’s great to know there’s somewhere you can turn for help. So I’m super excited to have one of their representatives with us at our next Klatch on April 5th.
Oh, yes. Whether people want to admit it or not, there are so many differences between men and women. And even with all of the changes in our roles in society, the truth is, we tend to fall into certain roles in our families. This is particularly true when it comes to who runs the home itself. That usually falls to women. So, when a man becomes a caregiver, they suddenly are thrust into this new role of caring for the kids and washing laundry. Plus, they still have to go to work every day. It’s a lot to take in. They want to be strong. Women seem to be more comfortable asking for help and advocating for themselves. That’s how I came to Jack’s. But they are also really scared.
Jack’s is there to care for men who are caregivers, by meeting them where they are, with no agenda, leaving them better off than they were before. That might be an ice-fishing trip where they can just kick back and have a good time with other men who are caregivers. Or it might mean sharing some great food and drinks while they talk about what’s happening in their lives, in a way they can’t do with people who aren’t caregivers. My goal is to enable everyone who wants to talk to be heard. I want to respect who they are and their story. I also want to make sure that everyone has plenty to eat and drink. So, I try to anticipate these things in advance. The great staff at the Common Roots Café is very attentive. It’s about seeing what can be done to better meet the needs of the people who show up.
If you'd like a copy of our Caregiver Klatch Flyer you can download it here